The Power of Privacy: Why I Keep My Aspirations Close and Relationships Closer

As we kick off the new year, we may be called to reflect and commit to new growth. Which reminds me why I keep my circle small and put my relationships ahead of success. 

With social media and the internet dominating so much of our daily lives, I’ve observed a shift in the way we approach and share our goals. In the past, I used to be vocal about my aspirations on various platforms. I thought why not? I might find support and more accountability through it. 

However, in my experience I’ve learned it can be much more beneficial to share selectively. 

Rather than broadcasting my ambitions to the world, now I prefer to keep them private and share only with people who genuinely want to see me succeed.

Sharing is a practice that calls for balance. We should find support in those who care for our welfare. However, the energy spent to prove ourselves with others or dealing with the toxicity that can arise online can be more wisely invested in our personal growth. It’s about cutting through the noise of outside validation (or judgment) and bringing that focus back to ourselves.

After all, our aspirations are personal to each of us, and should be pursued as a positive life change–not just for the approval of others.  

As the years have passed, I’ve found my priorities shifting towards relationships over conventional markers of success. Chasing success can fill our plate with tasks but might not necessarily fulfill our passions. I’ve noticed many successful individuals, often burdened with responsibilities, can struggle to find happiness.

What really matters for me is the quality of relationships I cultivate—personally and professionally. Which calls for balance between work and family life. I think at the end of the day, the time spent with our loved ones and in our community have more impact in defining our legacies. 

Today the world is full of social pressure and uncertainty. It’s essential to reflect on how we’re spending our time. Exiting the conveyor belt of life requires a conscious effort. Our modern world is built for efficiency and freedom with urbanization and digitalization. But it’s also brought up more alienation and disconnected some of our human connections. 

I believe that as humans we crave more wholesomeness, and business shouldn’t be a distraction from building community. After all, these are the people we tend to spend everyday with! 

All this is to say, we can make a different choice. Take a step back from the noise online, including division, and focus on the meaningful connections in our daily lives. Perhaps in slowing down and refocusing on our values, we can find more balance and fulfillment.

Wishing you a new year filled with genuine connections, purposeful goals, and the courage to navigate the uncertainties ahead.